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When a friend is abusive, you may not know it, but you will soon be wondering if you have gone too far.
A recent article on The Hindu website revealed that the common thread in the lives of some of India’s most powerful men is a “friendship with ended”.
The article is titled “How to ask forgiveness for a friend”.
“There are three kinds of forgiveness,” the article says.
“One, you give a reason for the relationship; the second, you forgive, and the third, you seek forgiveness.
When you forgive a friend, you are trying to make them feel that you care about them.”
“The problem is that most people who forgive do not forgive for long,” the author goes on.
“Forgivers do not always know how to get away with it.
You must forgive for a long time.”
As we move from the “friend” to the “bully”, the author reveals that the first “action” a bully must take is to make the “enemy” feel “broken”.
“The next step is to convince the bully that you are going to take responsibility for his behaviour and not him,” he says.
The bully then goes on to talk about how he wants to make a “huge difference” to a friend.
The bully goes on, explaining that he will “make you feel bad, not proud of who you are”, and that he wants “to make you feel better than you are.”
The next action the bully takes is to tell the bully, “I know you hate me for this, but I know you love me.”
Once the bully has convinced the bully to forgive him, the bully then has to tell his “enemies” to “be kind and forgive me.”
The next step, the author explains, is to “make him feel like a loser.”
After a bully makes his “enemy”, the bully will “find himself in a dilemma.
How can he make it feel like you are the reason for his bad behaviour?”
The author suggests that the bully “try to convince his enemies that they are the cause.”
While the article doesn’t reveal how the bully convinces his “friends” to forgive the bully and the bully persuades his “friends”, it does reveal that the “friends don’t always forgive their friends.”
In a study by the Harvard Business Review, researchers discovered that a large majority of people have at least one form of a “bad habit”, but that “almost no one ever gets to say to their friends: ‘I’m sorry, I did it.'”
The study also found that in a study of the relationships between friendship and forgiveness, “the ‘friends’ tended to forgive their ‘friends’.” The author goes into some detail on why the problem of “friendships ending” exists.
“People who are trying hard to be kind and kind to others will sometimes have to give up their friendliness and try to be like ‘the bully’ in order to achieve forgiveness,” he writes.
According to the author, “friends will forgive when they see that they have not done enough to make their friend feel better, or when they are convinced that they were the cause of the abuse.”
“They can also forgive when the ‘friend’ does not see how unfair it is to say ‘I love you’ to the ‘bully’.”
“As soon as they realize that it was not the bully who made them feel bad or that they had made the ‘enemy’ feel bad for his own good, they will forgive.”
It’s important to understand that “friends do not need to forgive all of the time.
It is not always true that ‘friends” will always forgive.
Forgiveness is a matter of perspective.
The author states, “You might have to forgive your ‘friend’.
It is a complicated issue.”
